The Art of Feminine Seduction

This is the story of how you create love. 

You may believe love is something that just happens. You think romantic love is like a four-leaf clover - something some people get lucky and find. You may believe some people were meant to have love and others are not or that some people are "good" at love while others are "bad" at it.

Perhaps you think certain conditions need to exist before you can have love. You must be good-looking enough, fun enough, smart enough, rich enough, or healed enough to be lovable.

I was exceptionally bad at finding love. If I wasn't being completely romantically ignored in a bar or at a party, I was probably dating someone I wasn't that into, or who only wanted to sleep with me until they found someone better. I dated men who wouldn't contact me on the weekends. My “first love” play wrestled with my best friend in front of me (we were not children). I was taken on a date to a swingers club for Gang Bang Night as a very unsolicited surprise. I was non-consensually taken to dinner and bowling by my hotel receptionist after I asked him where I could find food nearby (yes, I will reveal all these stories in the book). :)

After years of heartbreak and suffering, I was fairly resigned to being unlovable and incapable of falling in real, fulfilling love. But, I decided I could fix myself. I read books by Marriage and Family Therapists like Esther Perel and John Gottman. I watched every TedTalk with the words “love” or “heartbreak” in the title. I researched tantra and connection techniques. I spent hours consuming articles and YouTube videos by relationship therapists and coaches. I even took a dive into reality TV dating shows. 

And I found answers about why I struggled in love, but they didn’t require that I fix or change myself. 

(I was, in fact, a bit put off by Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction, because I read it as suggesting you need to embody a seductive caricature in order to be desirable and effective at creating love.) I believe you can and do create the best love when you are authentically yourself.

From what I learned, I turned my own love life around 180 degrees. Now several years and plenty of dating success later, I formed a simple system that you can also use to make dating anyone (including current committed partners) fun, empowering, and gratifying:

1. Create Attraction

2. Create Sexual Tension

3. Create Emotional Connection

Each of these steps have energetic, psychological, biological, and hormonal components that can be learned and practiced, by anyone, to create love.

Feminine Seduction is the name of my process for creating love, which I now teach to others in a course of the same name (more info below). 

Feminine in this case is an archetypal energy, rather than a way of being female. It is part of all people, though it usually shows up more strongly in estrogen-predominant people. I like talking in energetic terms because it allows for more flexibility and nuance of gender, sex, and sexuality, whereas the science is still quite new, and studies were done almost exclusively on straight male-female couples. I speak to the feminine energy side because it is the space I personally occupy!

I must acknowledge that I wrote with the filter of being a white, cisgender, heterosexual woman, and these facts informed my experience and parts of how I express my system. I do, however, wholeheartedly believe that everyone has the power to create the love of their dreams using the basics of what I teach.

If the words feminine and seduction make you uncomfortable, you are likely afraid of or uncomfortable with your feminine power and/or your seductive power (how you get what you want and need in life). Consider that you are already seductive, but you may not have examined HOW you use this power.

No matter who you are and what your story has been so far, you can create love.

I hope you will read my book and allow it to enrich your life, or that your curiosity about my atrocious dates will get the best of you ;)

The first draft of this book is written, but I'd love to have your support in making it an incredible published reality!

What I Need & What You Get

$10,000 is how much I need to make this book a reality this year (rather than one that takes me a couple years to complete on my own). Here's what I'm looking at:

• $2,500 for professional editing

• $1,000 for professional book cover design and printing layout

• $5,000 for professional writing support, promotion planning, endorsement guidance - getting a relevant bigger name to recommend my book), book coaching, and self-publishing support (set-up and SEO) to get my book thriving on Amazon and selling to Barnes & Nobles and small bookshops.

• $1,500 for initial advertising

• $1,000 for fees and taxes

You get a copy or copies of the final book, some awesome perks, and my undying love and gratitude! <3

The Impact

My intention is to change thousands (and maybe one day millions) of lives through empowerment in love. When people are empowered in love they create more fulfilling relationships with partners AND everyone around them.

This book teaches about the chemical (biological and neurological) and alchemical (energetic and magical) processes involved in creating attraction and connection with a date. You'll find precise how-tos and exercises to help you along the way to becoming an expert creator of love. The techniques are illustrated by the story of my own journey from deeply dysfunctional to deeply fulfilled in love.

Right now I teach the educational content in this book as an online course - which has been called "a vital shift in consciousness," a "MUST have, if you are struggling with embracing dating and/or your sexual/romantic aspects of self," and "love-changing" by graduates. If you or a friend of yours is unhappily single and ready to change that, please reach out to me at avessel4love@gmail.com for more info.

Risks & Challenges

If I don't reach the full $10,000, I am still committed to publishing this book. It will just take me a little longer and the final product won't be as gorgeous as if I had professional help.

Other Ways You Can Help

Even if you just can't contribute $$, that doesn't mean you can't help!!

Please share this with your single friends who want to find love! Indiegogo has easy "Share" tools <3

And that's all there is to it. May you love and be loved.